4 Myths I Believed About Homeschooling (and What I’ve Learned Instead)
When we first considered homeschooling, I was filled with doubts. I had a picture in my head that was shaped by a mix of Pinterest-worthy unit studies and the usual stereotypes. I obsessed for months over whether it was the right path for our family.
I knew one girl in high school who was pulled out of school to homeschool for a year and I remember feeling bad for her. In my 16-year-old mind, homeschooling was something that only happened when parents were overbearing or trying to keep their kids isolated from the world.
It turned out I was wrong.
Now that we’re living this life day by day, I can say with confidence that many of my biggest concerns turned out to be simply untrue. But it’s hard to imagine what something is like if you haven’t eperienced it for yourself. If you are considering homeschooling and still have some doubts, here are five common homeschooling myths I used to believe, and the surprising truths I’ve discovered along the way.
1. “They won’t socialize.”
Like many others, this was one of my biggest fears. Ironically, we started homeschooling in 2020, so no one was really socializing anyway. Still, I pictured long days at the kitchen table with little outside interaction.
Fast forward to now, my kids are around peers more than I ever imagined. Between co-ops, enrichment classes,field trips, playdates, church, and homeschool events, we often have to scale back just to get time at home. Finding balance is still a work in progress, but social opportunities have never been a problem.
2. “They won’t get to play sports.”
People sometimes ask how my kids will play sports if they don't go to school. I want to respond with "uh...the same way your kids play sports outside of school." I never say that. Instead, I remind them that homeschoolers can and do. My son has played basketball every year, and my daughter is going into her third season of volleyball.
There are countless community leagues with practices and games after school and on weekends. Sports access? Not an issue.
3. “Homeschoolers can’t go to college.”
With young kids, I’ve wondered what high school and beyond will look like. But I’ve since met other parents who were homeschooled, went to college, and are now homeschooling their own children.
I’ve also talked with friends who’ve navigated the college admissions process recently without missing a beat. Their insight and encouragement remind me that homeschooling doesn’t limit your child’s future. It just offers a different path to get there.
4. “You need to be a trained teacher to homeschool.”
I don’t have a teaching degree, so this one felt personal. But there are so many curriculum options that offer structure, support, and even scripted lessons. Bonus if the curriculum includes video lessons! I’ve learned to observe what my kids need, follow their interests, and supplement with co-ops, enrichment classes, or online classes when necessary.
Homeschooling isn’t about replicating school at home. It’s about creating a custom fit. And you don’t have to do it alone.
A Note About Community
One of the biggest surprises has been the community. Finding your people takes time, but they’re out there. I’ve discovered consistent groups to grow with like co-ops & enrichment classes. I've met parents who shared their expertise, planned field trips, provided encouragement, and offered real friendship. It’s been one of the best parts of this journey.
Final Thoughts
If you're considering homeschooling and find yourself wrestling with doubts, I’ve been there. The truth is, it looks different for every family, but it’s more social, active, and supportive than the myths would have you believe. And Charlotte has a great network and homeschool community to support you along the way.
Letting go of those old assumptions opened up something really good for us, and maybe it could for you too.
Remember to check our events calendar for more ideas about how you can get connected with other homeschool families in Charlotte.
